“You are never given a wish without also being given the power to make it true. You may have to work for it, however.” -Richard Bach
Today (Sunday—yes, I know I’m behind) was a day designated to catching up on homework. This week, we’ll begin our presentations for teachers in the public school system in El Porvenir, Trujillo, and Trujillo Alto (which I’ll discuss later this week), but there’s a lot of preparations to be done. For today’s post however, I wanted to backtrack to something I wrote about in my prior post. I mentioned a song from Thalía titled, “A quien le importa,” or something along the lines of “To whom is it important to?”
For whatever reason, so many of us find importance in what others think or say about us as we grow up. We find that our sense of confidence, or lack thereof is developed and fostered based on the opinions and beliefs of those around us. When you speak with elder adults in the later stages, many of them will likely tell you the opposite, and explain that they could care less what others think of them because at this stage in life, they should be free to express themselves however they please.
Why is it that we have to wait until we reach an older age to finally learn to live for ourselves and not based on what others think of us? What is stopping us from doing so earlier so that we can truly get the most out of what we want from life? How would our lives differ if we went back in time and only focused on our opinions, as opposed to those of others?
Could you imagine how awful it would be if we could ignore everybody else for just a moment and truly enjoy every aspect of ourselves? What a concept it would be if we could care less what others think and treat ourselves as kindly as we treat those around us. Sounds terrible and pretty scary, right?
It’s such an easy concept, but one that for some reason is much harder said than done. So what is it that’s stopping us? Yes, we can obviously find fault in these learned behaviors by blaming society, the media, and whoever else is behind our dependency to place such a large emphasis on what others think. But at the end of the day, we are the only ones who stop ourselves from breaking this cycle. We are the only ones who can push ourselves to believe in ourselves. We have more power than we tend to believe, but like any change that we want to see, it has to start with us.
“The mind has exactly the same power as the hands: not merely to grasp the world, but to change it.” -Colin Wilson
“When the whole world is silent, even one voice becomes powerful.”
Let me ask you a question. When was the last time you believed in yourself? It may sound silly but really try and remember. Was it when you were taking your most recent test in school and felt a strong sense of confidence? Maybe when you were submitting a work assignment and felt passionate about what you were about to hand over to your boss. If and when you are able to think back to this particular time, try and think of other instances in which you believed in yourself.
I’d like to fill you in on a little secret. Not everyone you meet is going to believe or have faith in you. I wish I could say otherwise, but many times, this is the truth. People will reject you for no good reason, they will laugh in your face at the thought of you prospering, and they will try and kick you when you feel down. So let me ask you this. Do you believe in yourself? Because if you don’t, other people sure as hell won’t either. And regardless of whether or not others believe in you, it is important for you to believe in yourself because otherwise, you won’t accomplish anything in your life. You have the power to do great things; we all do. But it starts with believing in yourself, and if you don’t, then I would suggest doing so immediately.
It may be difficult to trust in yourself if no one else does, or have confidence in yourself on top of the pressure of everyone else being confident of you. So put the whole world around you on pause and just focus on you and you only. Know that you can achieve anything you set out to do. You can conquer the world, but you have to believe. Anything is possible if you believe, and it all starts with you. Are you ready to do great things? Because I for one believe in you!